LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy & Consultation
If you already identify within this community, I’m sure you already know what these letters represent: Lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex, asexuals, and allies. I have chosen for a broad version that is still recognizable but please know that I also include pansexuals in this community. However you identify your sexual orientation or gender identity, you are welcome here!
Ethical Non-Monogamy and LGBTQIA+
Let me first say that not all (hell, maybe not even that many) of those who identify as LGBTQIA+ desire ethical non-monogamy for themselves. Many prefer monogamy and this is OK! For some, however, ethical non-monogamy may be a great fit. Here are just a few reasons you might consider non-monogamy as an LGBTQIA+ person:
- You identify as bisexual, pansexual, and/or gender fluid and do not want to limit yourself to a partner of one sex or gender orientation.
- Despite engaging in sexual activity with multiple partners in the community, you don’t have a clear ethical framework to guide the relationships.
- You feel immense pressure to find “THE ONE” and struggle with unrealistic expectations when dating. This is not unlike heteronormative relationships but you may feel an extra pull towards monogamy after the passage of gay marriage laws.
Conscious Monogamy and LGBTQIA+
I’m all for monogamous relationships if that’s what works best for you. In fact, I have a whole page devoted to conscious monogamy! But, while you’re here, I encourage you to seriously examine what works or doesn’t for you in relationships. Whether from long-standing societal pressures towards monogamy or successful gay marriage advocacy, it is easy to fall into a default assumption that you should be exclusively in love with just one partner.
Many who come to see me learn pretty quickly that I’m fairly pragmatic when it comes to relationships. If how you’re going about them is working for you and your partner, great! However, if you’re experiencing problems, I encourage you to examine where the origins and contributors to those problems before setting out to fix them. Monogamy may or may not be part of that equation.
Mental Health Pride
Sadly, mental health issues among the LGBTQIA+ community are far too common. Trauma, depression and anxiety rates are much higher for this community. The stakes can literally be life and death. When others actively reject you, demean you for how you identify and express yourself, who you love, etc… these take their toll.
My affirmative therapy takes into account the significant context in which you may experience shame, isolation, discrimination, etc. There’s no way around it. No amount of medication will make those shifts. My confidential services offer you a place to be heard and accepted at a deep level. And I will ally with and empower you and others as we combat marginalization together.
Proud to Serve You
Do you want to explore non-monogamy, raise your consciousness when choosing monogamy, or have mental health concerns? I would be glad to help! Send me a note about what you’re needing/wanting and I’ll back at out ASAP.